AC

I walked home and it was extremely humid. I went into TV room, said hi, then said,"how about we turn on the AC for a bit?" JJ said, "no, I'm comfortable." I said, "I just walked home in extreme heat, whew I'm uncomfortable." I turned it on. He shouted, "You see? It's always about what YOU want!" I said, "I'm in our home, I'm really hot, and turning on the AC doesn't take anything away from you! I don't know why I even bothered to ask you. I just was trying to be polite." JJ said, "you never even asked. You just did it." I said, no I did ask. Finally I said, if I doint ask, why did you say "no, I'm comfortable?"

Planning Merryn's party

Me: JJ, we should plan Merryn's birthday party so we can get invitations out. How about we have it at the water park? I called about the pavilion but it's not available. But we could have a picnic nearby.

JJ: I would rather have it at home.

Me: I just think it might be easier in the park because the entertainment is built in, there are table there, all we have to do is bring food and balloons. It's the weekend after school is out and things are so busy now...it stresses me out to think of cleaning up the house for a party. 

Two hours later, after kids are in bed...

Me: JJ, we started talking about the party...can we decide? Park or house?

JJ: silence

Me: JJ, I'm open to doing it at the house but will we be able to communicate and work together?

JJ: silence

Me: JJ? Do you just want me to decide?

JJ: No! We will just cancel the party!

Me: JJ, NO. This is not about you and me. Sometimes you seem to be seething with anger towards me, and I don't know why. This is about our little girl. So please, either express an opinion and let me know if we can work together, or just let me choose.

JJ: silence

Me: okay, I guess I will choose.

JJ: fine, do it here.

Rudest ever!

We were eating dinner. Merryn didn't want to go to her chair. She wanted to sit on JJ's lap. I had cut up strawberries for her, but she was eating the strawberries off JJ's plate. Then she demanded mine. I said she could have them if she went to her seat. JJ was asking her if he could put her in her seat. I was trying to get her into her seat too (asking her to go there). She demanded more strawberries. JJ got the container. I said, " let's wash them." I took some to wash them in the sink. When I came back, he was giving her ones from the container. I said, "please, can we have her eat the clean ones?" He gave her more from the container. I said, "JJ, you are ignoring everything I say. I tried to get her to go to her seat, and I offered to switch my whole strawberries for her cut ones of she did that. I asked her to eat the ones I washed, not the ones from the container. You gave her ones from the container right after that." He said, "how can you care about dirty strawberries? You put cheese with raw chicken!" I said, "what???" I have never, ever done that!" This escalated until he said, "You are the rudest person I have ever known. You're annoying."