Pig-headed

Wow, not a banner weekend with JJ. Yesterday I decided to rake leaves, partly to be outside and get exercise, partly to blow off steam, partly because it needed to be done. I started at the top behind the house and I was raking out beneath the bushes and plant beds. JJ opens the window and shouts at me, "Don't rake out those plant beds! Stop!" Then Merryn is standing there and she starts saying, "Stop, Mommy!" Still hurting from JJ's comments earlier this week, I said, "JJ, don't talk to me right now, I don't want to hear from you right now." Because you know what, I am SICK of hearing him act like he knows more about everything. And I'm the one out there raking, so what's the big deal if I rake out these plant beds. I cleaned out the bushes in front of the house and they looked much better, so it seemed to me that it was a good idea to rake them out. At least it wasn't hurting anything. I told Merryn to either close the window or come out and help me. She came out, which was great, of course. After a while JJ came out too with James and started taking down the Halloween decorations. He didn't say anything to me, until he was heading back inside. He said, "Amy, DON'T RAKE OUT THOSE PLANT BEDS! You're being pig-headed."

We didn't talk much the rest of the day. We all took naps; he went to the grocery store. 

This morning I took the kids to the park, then to lunch at the Horseman. I invited him to come but he didn't answer my text.

We hadn't really talked and then at dinner I said, "do you want to run the Turkey Trot? My dad wants to register soon so we should tell him." He said, "I don't know." Then he said, "Did you invite your parents to come up here for Christmas Eve and Day?" I said, "no." (We had never discussed this) He slammed his hands on the table and said, "Amy! We are not going to their house this year. We are having our Christmas here in our own house like grown-ups." I said, "I am not going to fight with you about this right now, but my sister and brother are coming to my parents' house so I want to go there." He refused to speak to me. He gave me the silent treatment the rest of the evening. Because that's what an awesome couple we are.