Summer 2016: Roberts family reunion. Lots of ideas discussed about holidays. JJ present for all conversations. Never speaks.
10/6/2016: I text JJ "what are your thoughts on Thankinsgiving? Are you up for Alexandria this year? I would love to run the a Turkey Trot. Emily is coming."
No response.
10/7/2016: we're watching TV w kids.
Me: what are you thinking about Thanksgiving this year?
JJ: I don't know.
Me: are you up for going to Alexandria?
JJ: I don't know.
Me: Did you have another idea?
JJ: I don't know.
Me: I think it would be fun to run the Turkey Trot.
JJ: Maybe.
Me: What if we alternate each year? So, Alexandria this year, then next year we host here at home, or we go to Toms River? We could try to set a pattern like that.
JJ: Maybe.
Me: what is your family doing in Toms River this year? Is there a Thanksgivibg tradition?
JJ: No. I don't know.
Me: My sister will come for Thanksgiving this year. They have a pattern like that--Alexandria one year, Matt's family the next year. So I was thinking we could try the same...
JJ: maybe.
In my experience with JJ, "maybe" and "I don't know" will later, at the most inopportune time, like the day before the trip, become "I never said yes! You never consider what I want to do! I tell you I don't want to go and then you just do it anyway." This makes planning this extremely stressful.
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