House rules

So who makes the rules in our house? I think that JJ believes that he, alone, makes them. He made a comment to Merryn about me wearing my shoes upstairs and not putting my shoes away. I totally bristled at that...we never discussed some "no shoes in the house" rule, and I like to wear them inside. I am an adult in this house too, a homeowner, and JJ's wife and partner, not a junior family member. I do not leave them at the top of the stairs. He states that I do, and he seems to think just because he said that, it's true. I get tired of his way, his apparent feeling we should everything his way. Back the fuck off, JJ. You're not always right. Your way isn't always the best way. It's just...your way.